Hi there Trotti ,
When i read your post , i couldn't help but to think of the server that i am residing at. Having a server from scratch without a few clans supporting is a tough process.
The server i am at have plenty of pvp, KOS and meta games that promote especially clans to fight each other under land claiming battles.
We have a few strong clans here and diplomacy matters a lot in this server.
There are large clans here like mine , and alliance that are as good as a big 20 active men clan together. Note ( not number of members in the clans , just talking bout the active ones )
most of the guilds here have more than 5 members and we only consider them as a small settlement in terms of scaling.
Most guilds would accept a friendly field battle if issued a challenge and raiding is viable too.
Saltiness is inevitable but on this server a majority do not cry when they die.
We normally hit the peak of 64/64 during weekdays for US and EU timezone s.
It's a hybrid EU/US server named Slaughterhouse.
Take a look at
http://feudalfoundry.com/ for more details.
This server is an option if you're looking for a fight ! with the low skill cap it forces people to actually band together and make clans.
well, of course if you are still up to creating a server, i wish you all the best!
sorry that i sound like an advertisement D: