The only answer to this is to restrain your greed.
If a player wants to own a big castle, a few kilometers of mineshafts and an orchard all on his own, with no upkeep required, then skyrim is good for him.
You should gather or join a community that will help you to upkeep your property or make a smaller personal clam with less buildings on it that will require less dailywork from you.
While you hunt/explore/sleep/drive/study/work your friends should work ingame, if you are good enough to find such a good friends.
Life is Feudal
and there is no place for hermits.